Given that it's January, I shouldn't be surprised at all the ads promoting the beginning of the year and the opportunity for a "fresh start." Like lots of people, I love new beginnings. I like the first page in a new notebook and putting up my new calendar. In January I do think about my goals and plans for the year. But. Please don't see January as an opportunity to "start over." See the New Year as an opportunity to "start where you are."
Just because you haven't achieved your goal doesn't mean that you:
- haven't already put some effort (probably LOTS of effort) into it
- don't know more about yourself and what it will take for you to succeed than anyone else on the planet
When you embark on a new change, a new resolution, a new project, be sure to take your wisdom with you! No new diet, no great new program, no philosophy of eating will work for you in a permanent way if you don't take into consideration who you are, where you are in your readiness for change, and what you need to succeed. Your individuality is a crucial part of the equation.
When I get feedback from users of my Emotional Eating Toolbox(TM) and participants in Emotional Eating Toolbox Coaching Groups(TM), I'm always a bit surprised (although I shouldn't be), at how excited people are when they learn how to finally incorporate their own wisdom and their own readiness for change into the process. It can be a surprisingly hard thing to do but the Toolbox program teaches tools that are targeted at overcoming the resistance and self-criticism that often get in the way. Accessing our own wisdom and self-knowledge so that we can incorporate it with outside knowledge is often the final crucial piece that allows everything else to fall into place.
When you think about your goals or resolutions for the year, take some time to also evaluate what you know about yourself that will help you succeed. Where have you gotten stuck in the past? What could you add or do differently so that that doesn't happen again? How can you mobilize your strengths and not push too hard on the things that are just more difficult for you? What are you honestly ready to take on and what needs to wait (for now)?
These are questions we will be addressing in depth in the Emotional Eating Toolbox Coaching Groups(TM), which start on January 23. These groups work in tandem with the Emotional Eating Toolbox(TM). Once you've purchased the Toolbox program, you can join a group at any time. Each week, we'll meet you where you are in the program. We'll focus on your next step, help you over any hurdles and stuck spots, and help add some momentum to keep you moving in the direction you want to go. Take a look, and consider whether these options might be for you.
Take good care,
PS: I'm also just added some additional individual coaching slots to my January schedule. If you would like to schedule a free consultation to have your questions answered about coaching and to investigate whether individual coaching would be a helpful option for you, please email me.